Video player disappears??

I have placed a clickable video on my site using Flash 8.

This is the code I used to get that to happen:

<object classid="clsid:d27cdb6e-ae6d-11cf-96b8-444553540000" codebase="
(URL address blocked)
shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=8,0,0,0"
width="550"
height="400"
align="middle">

<param name="allowScriptAccess" value="sameDomain" />
<param name="movie" value="sdbc_gdn.swf" />
<param name="quality" value="high" />
<param name="flashvars"
value="moviepath=sdbc32.flv
&loopPlay=false
&clickPath=
&clickTarget=_self">

<param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF"><param name="LOOP" value="false">

<embed src="sdbc_gdn.swf" width="550" height="400" loop="false" align="middle" quality="high" allowscriptaccess="sameDomain" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" pluginspage=""
flashvars="moviepath=sdbc32.flv
&loopPlay=false
&clickPath=
&clickTarget=_self"

bgcolor="#FFFFFF" />

</object>

I need this to be embedded on other sites, I have tried various ways of doing this from simple embed commands to param names etc but the result always is that the movie is seen and plays, but the video controller is not present and the movie is no longer clickable. (Seen here: east devon business club dot com/test_gig.html

This should be simple but I cannot find a way to do it.

Is it because of the way Flash 8 produces three separate files for this to work, ie, an .flv for the movie, a swf for the video control and a swf that is published which refers to the others?

I have not been able to find another way of producing a flash video without Flash 8 defaulting to the wizard every time. The files have been saved in the same folder:

sdbc (Folder)
sdbc32.flv (movie file)
sdbc_gdn.swf (file to publish)
SteelAllExternal.swf (standard video controller)
sdbc_test2.htm (page where movie is present- with spiders and milk dot com/)

Can anyone show how much of a prat I am being?